Things You Should NEVER Say To A Stay At Home Dad

Things You Should NEVER Say To A Stay At Home Dad

Written By: Rich Lamm & Doug Johnson

Being a stay-at-home parent is one of the most rewarding jobs a person can have. That’s right, I said JOB, and mother’s are not the only parents doing it. Dads are taking on the title these days and making a huge impact. We’re not the bumbling fools you see on T.V. or in movies (most of us, anyway), and we’re pretty dang good at taking care of the kids and the house. But there are some skeptics who think otherwise and don’t always know how to filter their criticisms. The following are things you should never say to a stay-at-home dad (SAHD), unless you want a sippy cup in the eye. Just kidding (not really).


  1. How’s that working out for ya?


It’s actually going really well. You look surprised. Yes, I love being home and spending time with my kids. I feel like this is what God is finally calling me to do.

  1. Are you ready to go back to work yet?


This is my work. Are you just jealous that you can’t work from home in your pj’s or workout clothes?

  1. Tired of your kids yet?


No, and I’d appreciate it if you wouldn’t say that in front of my kids! I’m sure you’re alluding to the fact that kids can be difficult to care for but I’m fully capable of doing so and wouldn’t give it up for the world.

  1. Are your kids tired of you yet?


No, I am the best friend they have ever had. In fact, I’m a big kid myself and often pop a straw into a juice box with them while collecting bugs.

  1. Are you going crazy yet?


Yes, but you don’t get to know about that unless we are close friends.

  1. It must be hard not contributing to the family’s income.


Maybe you need to reevaluate/redefine what you know about the word provider. Let me tell you what I do contribute: a stable environment for our kids, the house is taken care of,  fear and love for the Lord, Mom is made queen of the house…I can go on all day.

  1. So is your wife the man of the house now?

not funny

Haha. Funny. How long did it take you to think of that one? Actually, last time I checked I am still the man of the house and I don’t feel any less of man being a SAHD. It takes a real man to take charge of raising his children as faithful servants of the Lord and treating his wife with love, respect and dignity. It goes far beyond bringing home the paycheck.

  1. Do your kids miss their mom?


If you ask me this in front of their mother, I will punch you. Of course they miss their mom. They also miss me when I am not around. But, they can always count on both of us to provide them with plenty of quality time.

  1. Does your wife have to clean up after you guys?


 I actually can’t stand a mess so the house is kept pretty neat and orderly for a house full of small children. I am pretty sure all I do is clean.

10.You do realize you’ll be changing diapers, cooking, cleaning and entertaining your kids, right?


What? You don’t think I am man enough? I do all those things with my eyes closed.

  1. How long do you think this will last?


What? This conversation? Not much longer, I hope. Oh, you mean being a SAHD. I could do this forever if that’s what God calls me to do. 

  1. That sounds so much better than having a real job.


Hopefully you will realize how stupid of a statement this is the second it comes out of your mouth. Raising your children isn’t just a real job, it is THE JOB. It’s my vocation. I can’t think of anything more important than raising my kids to be faithful servants. If it were up to me, every family would blessed to have one parent that stays home. I’d say my previous career was much easier than being a SAHD, but so much less rewarding and fulfilling. 

  1. I wish my wife would let me just sit at home.


HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!!!! Are you trying to be funny or are you really that naiive?

  1. Great! Now you’ll have time to come over and help me with my projects!


We aren’t in college anymore. I am not that single guy that can drop everything to come help you for cheap beer and free pizza. My project list doesn’t end, my friend.

  1. Just bring the kids with you.


My kids are very well behaved, but they are still kids. You have no idea what you are asking here.If you’re volunteering for diaper changes, meal prep, and damage control I may come over. Otherwise, you’re on your own. I also have no idea how well you have “child proofed” your home.


“Saturday mornings, I’ve learned, are a great opportunity for kids to sneak into your bed, fall back asleep, and kick you in the face.”
― Dan Pearce, Single Dad Laughing


  1. I like the “does you wife clean up after you”. My wife makes more messes than my daughter.

  2. My husband has been primary caregiver for our children since the oldest was 2. We decided together that somebody had to make the money, and since I was closer to a good paying job (not very close, it still took completing a postgraduate degree to become a speech language pathologist) that was me, which left the bulk of the daily parenting chores to him. He is an excellent parent. My only regret is how difficult it can be for him sometimes. He finds it hard to be entirely fulfilled without a paycheck, and the lack of societal support (expressed in comments like the ones you have refuted here) really gets to him at times. I wish that he felt the conviction and trust in God that your responses here demonstrate, but my guess is that there are times you struggle to sustain your emotional commitment to the task, as well. I’d bet every parent who takes primary responsibility for raising children feels that way sometimes.

    I agree that having one parent fully present and on call is ideal. I look at the results–our beautiful, brilliant happy children who love the Lord and one another (even if they don’t always show it) and feel that God was good to us to lead us to this solution.

    Okay, I do have one other regret. Sometimes, in spite of all the challenges he faces, I’m a bit jealous of the time he gets with them that I don’t. 🙂

  3. This is classic. No, epic. Truly epic.
    I love your commitment to having one parent stay at home. My children are currently blessed with having two parents who work from home. I am a blogger, website designer, teacher, and preacher and my wife is a Master’s degree student who cans amazing food, teaches music and directs a small Christian college. We are busy, but we do the vast majority of our work from home so our kids get to take part in life with us, and distract us from everything we do. It is so much work and so worth it.
    I think I am going to have to let this post sink in and come back to it again later. and maybe again after that.

  4. Yep. Especially the one about missing their mother. Also, only “working” eight hours in one day? *maniacal laughter*. At home is a 24/7 gig.

    Yeah lets not talk about the dingus on TV. Irritating.

    Fist bump man. Good post.

  5. Thank you for this! My brother-in-law is a SAHD and he is AWESOME! Some people have commented that he might feel emasculated, but I can’t imagine how! And the kids still need their mom. Dad doesn’t try to be Mom just because he’s the primary daytime caregiver. They both still have very “traditional” mom and dad relationships with their kids, they’ve just chosen a less common way to ensure their kids are given the best possible upbringing.

  6. Who is this man and where can I find one?!?! 🙂

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