Before you read this, understand that I am not trying to insult anyone or start any fights. I am just giving my honest take on things I have seen in the pro-life movement. Abby and I have been heavily involved in this movement for over 5 years now. I feel like I can give a pretty unique take considering that I am married to a well known leader and I have been on the pro-choice side of the fence as well. I am hoping that this can be a good conversation starter. These are in no particular order and I would gladly invite some friendly debate and reasonable explanations. I am open to any good argument on why I should or should not see these things as a negative. Maybe some of you have never noticed some of these things, or maybe you are the text book definition of what I am saying. Either way, lets talk about it and make this movement stronger.
Protestants that think praying at clinics is a Catholic thing and Catholics that think pregnancy centers are a Protestant thing.
Believe it or not, this is a thing. It’s not rampant everywhere, but it is definitely noticeable in a lot of communities. It’s as if some people believe their job in the pro-life movement is determined by their Christian denomination and not their actual God given talents. I don’t know if some Protestants are worried they might be mistaken as Catholic or what. I don’t know why Catholics seem to think running a pregnancy center is not up their alley. But I do know that all Carenet pregnancy centers make their volunteers sign a “Statement of Faith” that is blatantly anti-Catholic. Why would you want to divide people who want to save babies? There is plenty to do in this movement. Go with what you’re best at an don’t discriminate.
People that say pro-life leaders and supporters shouldn’t smile or act happy while working.
People have actually told my wife that she smiles too much. She has also been told she is too happy and that she is not remorseful enough. We have had other friends in the pro-life movement that have been told the same types of things. I saw one time where a guy was upset about all the smiling and having fun at the March For Life in DC. He said something like, “How dare all these people smile while we are still dealing with abortion!?” To that I say,”Maybe it’s because those of us who have experienced abortion know that we are redeemed.” Or how about knowing that we are doing God’s work and He is on our side? I think being surrounded by thousands of other pro-lifers at a march would make me smile.
This is hard work and sometimes it can get you down. But that doesn’t mean we can’t find joy in fighting for the unborn.
Priests pastors and clergy that won’t talk about abortion.
Don’t worry about keeping people in the seats at your church. Don’t worry about offending people. Don’t worry about people getting angry. Don’t worry about making people feel good about what God can do for them.
Worry about the souls of everyone and getting them into heaven. Worry about how offensive the number of babies being killed by abortion is. Know that God will open their hearts, minds, and ears when the time is right. Make sure people know God’s truth about sin and salvation. The truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth. People need bold leaders NOW. People should be challenged. People should now the truth, even if it’s a hard pill to swallow. Freedom from sin can’t really start until we know what the sins look like.
Using inflammatory words like “abortion mill, deathscort, abortuary, Tiller the Killer”…
This is the biggest one for me. When Abby was still at Planned Parenthood, these ridiculous labels made us laugh and we just could not take anyone that used them seriously. It’s almost like they are invented so pro-lifers can impress their pro-life friends at how witty they are. Here are some things those words do not do. They do not keep communication open with clinic workers. They do not make anyone, clients or workers say, “Well this seems like a nice loving reasonable person I can talk to about a possible conversion or change of heart.” Here’s what those words actually do. They make you seem desperate. They make you seem like you have no respect for anyone that thinks differently than you. They dehumanize the humans that are in need of prayer and REAL support. And for a person to talk to you about conflicting beliefs, they need to know you will respect them.
(I know some of you will say, “Who cares if it dehumanizes them? They are dehumanizing and killing babies.” That may be true, but two wrongs don’t save a baby.)
Baked chicken, mixed veggies, and a form of potato being served at every fundraiser.
Can we please get some variety? I know it’s the cheapest meal, but there has got to be a better way. I went to a banquet in South Carolina one time and they served some of the best comfort food I have ever had. Maybe the speaker and top donors can get a steak or a burger. I would even take PB&J over the usual.
(The last one was meant to be funny. So please don’t tell me it’s not about the food, or its about the babies, or whatever.)