It’s that time of year when we get to hear about teenagers getting kicked out of dances because of inappropriate attire. At Bingham High School’s homecoming dance in South Jordan, Utah, about 100 kids staged a protest by walking out of class. Why did they walk out? Because they were told their dresses did not fit the school dress code and needed to cover up to get into the dance. Some covered up, and some decided to leave. Either way, rules are rules and they need to be enforced.
To quote the girl that seemed to lead the walk out,
“I understand having a dress code for a learning experience.But when it comes down to a dance, that’s our time to be rewarded for being good students, and we should be able to express ourselves.”
When I was a teen, I used to say I believed in a persons right to express themselves with their clothing. But that was a time when cowboy boots meant you were a little country, baggy pants meant you liked rap, or flannel shirts meant you liked Nirvana. I understand that kind expression. What I don’t understand is, what does more skin express? Since when does a bare back, 5 inches of cleavage, or your butt hanging out express anything other than sexuality?
Maybe it’s just me, but I feel kids are learning to express their sexuality waaaaaay too young. When I was teaching, I learned that a lot of teens these days are just walking hormonal disasters with no map or compass. I’m talking about guys and girls. They would rub it on anyone. Kids would have same sex relations then claim they aren’t gay. They would say they were just having fun or just wanted to just have some sort of sex. With that being said, how could we let a bunch of kids show up at a dance with less clothing on? Even the most normal teenager just needs a little stimulation to kick on the lust button.
With teen pregnancy the way it is, I think it’s a good move for parents and schools to limit the amount of skin these kids are showing. Not just that, we need to be aware of how form fitting the clothes are as well. Considering the kind of “dancing” that goes on in clubs, high school dances, and everywhere else, more clothes are a good thing.
When I was teaching, it seemed to me that a lot of the kids aligned their self worth with how much other people wanted to have sex with them. I blame a lot of that on magazines and celebrity worship. I blame even more of it on parents. I have 100% control over everything that comes in my home. If I think something is inappropriate, I am the one who ultimately says no. I want to teach my kids how to get to know people. I don’t want them deciding whether or not they want to have sex with someone upon first meeting. Our culture seems to be teaching us that physical attraction comes first, then we get to know each other. I am not saying there is anything wrong with physical attraction. I also don’t think there is anything wrong with dressing nice or looking good. We can teach our kids how to wear clothes that flatter their bodies. We can teach them how to cover up without wearing a potato sack. We can also teach our kids get to know each other with out being guided by physical attraction.
I am not trying to shame anyone or call out bad parenting, but I don’t understand how any parent can encourage this. Having travelled all over the country with Abby, I know there are teens who take up noble causes and give their time to something more important than looking good at prom. Let’s put away People Magazine, let’s turn off Mtv, and let’s show our kids how to be people of substance.
“Those who glory in their looks – not in their hearts – dress to please others.” Saint Clement of Alexandria
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