One night, I went to a Planned Parenthood supported event. It was at a supporter’s home. The owners of the house were a lesbian couple. One was a OBGYN, and the other was a stay at home mom. Neither were very nice to me. (Damn you, straight man, with your traditional ideas in our home!) Either way, this was a small gathering of local PP supporters here to listen to, wait for it…….. pro-choice clergy.
His name was Tom Davis, and he was an ordained minister with the United Church of Christ. To be honest, it didn’t matter. He was clergy. He was a religious leader and Christian that supported abortion. That’s all everyone there needed to know. The number one enemy to abortion was right wing church going bible beaters. So, if they could get a “Man of God” to come in and tell everyone that abortion is ok, then what other moral hurdles were there to cross?
So, after we all had some snacks and some wine, we all sat down to listen to this guy talk about the history of The Church and abortion. Here are some of the points he made.
- The Catholic Church did not care about abortion until it was legal
- Abortion was not important to any groups until it became a woman’s rights issue.
- Making abortion illegal is more about keeping women in their place than saving the lives of the unborn
- A lot of denominations are ok with abortion.
- A baby is not a baby until the mother says “I love you and I will keep you.”
All of these points are worth discussion, primarily because they are important and can be argued into the ground. But, I want to concentrate on #5. This caught both mine and Abby’s attention more than anything else. We discussed it all the way home and it still comes up to this day. Abby loved what he said. I can’t really tell you why. I have my own theories on it, but I would prefer she write about this on her own. Me, on the other hand, I was pissed. I wasn’t even in a good place in my Christian walk at the time. Either way, I knew that what he said was the biggest load of crap I had ever heard. I even said that to Abby that night. I wasn’t a, “Life begins at conception” kind of guy at that time, but I knew what the guy said was not from God.
I always supported Abby, no matter what. But, she always knew my discomfort with her job. I always felt that, good or bad, right or wrong, abortion was ending a life. So for this guy to say the baby/fetus didn’t matter until the mom decided to keep it, was just plain offensive. How could anyone say that a baby is not a baby, when there is a beating heart? How could it be that simple? “I don’t want this baby, therefore it is not alive.” “No wait, I change my mind, I decided the baby is no longer an inanimate object. I decided to parent this child, therefore it is alive.” Meanwhile, nothing has changed in the womb.
This night has always stuck with me, for many reasons, but mostly because of that one little sentence. If anything, those words put a bigger wedge between me and Abby. She found it inspiring and freeing. Now she had clergy helping her ignore the truth. I was 100% put out that this guy was out there misleading people. I felt his words were dangerous.
For the most part, everything written above was what I was thinking at that time. My views have evolved over time. I am 100% no exceptions prolife at this point. I believe that life begins at conception, and I believe that that life deserves to be protected until NATURAL death. This includes tiny fertilized eggs all the way to great grandpa that can’t get out of bed and do anything on his own.
Not everyone that calls themselves a Christian is pro-life. Not all clergy are prolife in their preaching. It’s our job as prolife Christians to encourage our pastors and priests that are speaking out against abortion from the pulpit. It’s on us to get to know our church leaders and find out what their stance is on abortion. Anyone can be misled, so we need to be cautious in who we allow to lead us. They say all it takes is one drop of ink in the water to ruin the whole well. It is especially bad when our church leaders are that drop of ink.