It’s been about 12 hours since my wife told me she was approached by a man affiliated with the group AHA (Abolish Human Abortion). She said a guy came to her and started aggressively arguing with her. When she tried to walk away, he revealed that he was recording the conversation. When Abby tried to cover the camera, the guy grabbed her arm and started to yank her around. Now, this is the story I was given and that’s all I need to know. Abby, my son, and everyone else involved is safe. Abby was not upset when she told me the story, so that keeps me calm as well. I figured now that I have had some time to sleep and think about what happened, why not put a little raw honest emotion out there on the internet?
The most frustrating thing about Abby being a public figure who travels, is not being there to protect her. It has been an issue from the beginning. She has had people call for her execution, show up at her talks to be a disturbance, argue with her on FaceBook, yell at her, condemn her to Hell, and whatever else I can’t remember. The list is too long. Either way, I am pretty sure this is the first time someone actually put their hands on my wife with malicious intent.
I honestly don’t care what he was there to argue about. Abby said it had something to do with her being Catholic. He obviously wasn’t there to share the peace. As far as arguing goes, Abby is pretty good at that and can handle herself. I have no problem there. I do have a problem with him grabbing her and pulling her around right in front of my 6 week-old son. If I could turn back time and be there in the heat of the moment… I am not saying I could or would whoop his ass, but I would have done what ever it took to stop him and make sure he never touches another woman like that again. That’s not just how I feel, it’s my duty as a husband and a man. Nobody needs to read this and think I am threatening him or that I want someone to find him and hurt him. The moment has gone and everyone is fine. The time for clinching fists has passed. I do want my wife to file a restraining order, and I do want this to be handled appropriately.
At this very moment, I am in no mood to forgive or turn the other cheek. I don’t want to hear his side of the story. I especially don’t want to see what happened. If anyone from AHA tries contact me or argue with me, I am going to completely ignore them. Yes I am upset. No I am not walking around with a scowl, kicking kittens. If you want to pray for me and my family, please do. We could sure use it. I am not sure how to get closure on this one. I kind of want to hold on to this feeling for a little while. It gives me a sense of urgency to make sure Abby is taken care of. I am not feeling anger or hate. I am mostly frustrated. I am not sure what I would do if he was standing in front of me right now. I wasn’t there to protect her and my son. I wasn’t there to hug her when the moment was over. I wasn’t there to talk to the police. I will feel better when Abby and Carter get home. Maybe that’s when I can start to forgive and move on.
Here is what I hope everyone else takes from this. The worst thing about all this is that AHA is being lumped in with the rest of us pro lifers. They have a reputation for this kind of behavior. Their tactics are ineffective and do not save babies. I am not even sure they care if babies are saved and women are helped. It seems to me they only care about being right. In a movement that is moving towards a peaceful, prayerful approach, this kind of thing is very damaging to the reputation of the movement as a whole. Abortion supporters see this and assume we are all a bunch of angry, hateful nut jobs that just like to hear ourselves scream. I believe everything about AHA is based on feelings of hate. I am not sure how they got there, but please be sure you don’t follow down the same path. I understand that there are frustrations in the pro life movement. I understand there are times you just want to grab people and scream the truth at them. I understand how you can get angry and cary that anger with you. I get how hard all of that is. But we just can’t allow those feeling to take control and still be effective. If you feel that you are getting angry and starting to feel hate towards people on the other side, I would ask that you step away. Spend some time in prayer. Get some perspective. Remember why you are pro life. Remember we are not here to prove we are right, but to save lives. As a Christian, I believe God will end abortion on his terms, not ours. It’s time to move on from the negative stereotypes.
Before I end this, I want say thanks for all the support my family has received. I especially want to thank everyone that was there to help my wife in the heat of the moment. I wasn’t there to do it, so it’s good to know I can count on good men and women to help me out. A BIG GIGANTIC thanks to Meagan for getting my son out of harms way, and A MEGA TITANIC thanks to the people that stepped in to stop the threat.